DTIP
Ready to pull some roots of rejection out today with me?
Get your gardening gloves on, and let's get to work!
One of the offshoots of the root of rejection is craving and absorbing what others think or feel about us.
We often desperately want to be wanted, liked, loved and admired.
But if that root of rejection has taken hold, and deep down, we don't believe those things are possible; we are in a state of constant craving that is never satisfied.
We crave affirmation and validation from others and feel alone or confused if we don't receive it.
If we do receive positive feedback, deep down, we don't even believe it so we discard it and keep seeking out more.
If we receive negative feedback, we take every insult, critique, and snide comment to heart and absorb them like sponges, validating our inner belief of worthlessness.
We quickly and easily absorb anything that agrees with the dark lies of being unlovable, unwanted, or not enough.
What an exhausting waste of precious time.
Our work today is an inside job.
The opinions and actions of others are not our responsibility. Their behavior towards us is not personal. They are on their journey, working through their own issues. How they treat others is about them, not about us.
We can work on pulling out the painful roots that sting when they say or do something that hurts us because, deep down, we agree with it.
Let's remind ourselves of a few things that are true:
God loves us unconditionally.
Our worth comes from Him; in His eyes, we are more than enough, just as we are.
God is our true source of affirmation, validation, and correction because He created us and wants what is best for us.
Do you agree? Say YES!
These are rocks of truth that everything others say or do can bounce off of rather than you agreeing with or immediately absorbing them.
I used to have a Post-it note on my desk that said:
D on't
T ake
I t
P ersonally
Be a rock, not a sponge
I even had a rock on my desk to remind me.
Okay, so are you ready?
Let's pull that stubborn little root out of craving and absorbing what others think or feel about you.
Now replace it with the beautiful rock of truths that God reminds you of:
God loves you unconditionally.
Your worth comes from Him; in His eyes, YOU are more than enough, just as YOU are.
God is your true source of affirmation, validation, and correction because He created you and wants what is best for you.
You did it! I am so proud of you!
But my opinion doesn't really matter, now does it (see what I did there)?
Proverbs 19:11
A person's wisdom yields patience; it is to one's glory to overlook an offense.
Ecclesiastes 7: 21-22
Do not pay attention to every word people say,or you may hear your servant cursing you—for you know in your heart that many times you yourself have cursed others.
Proverbs 29:25
The fear of human opinion disables; trusting in God protects you from that.
Ephesians 2: 8-10
For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God— not by works, so that no one can boast. For we are God's handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.